I am on cable connection (home) and dsl connection (work) and I find that the page-loads are fairly consistant with many other forums that I visit. There are many outside factors that will create slow load-times like hotlinked images and the GoogleAds at the top.
I haven't setup a "fast-access" type account without the GoogleAds yet - it is a thought in the back of my head, because I am not sure if I would like to do that with such a new forum.
If there is enough call to remove the google ads, I might setup a paid-subscription system - and - try to keep it a fair value.
I have 56k dialup too and this site isn't any slower that any other one for me. Sometimes it is slow and some pics might not download, but that's consistent with other sites as well. I think the government is watching you, Von.