My stepdaughter, husband, and grandson live next door. They both draw SS disability, and they get a check for the grandson. They also get foodstamps. When they started getting the checks, I was told " we are going to have more money than we need to pay the bills each month" I said good- start a savings because you have no significant raises coming in your future as long as you are willing to settle. Then she went out and bought a HORSE with some of the settlement money. A horse that has to be boarded at a farm, and must have feed bought for it, and vet bills paid- on top of the boarding costs. They also bought DH's truck that he was selling. Various other things, etc. And each month, as soon as the check comes in, they are off to town to blow it all. Now fast forward to last night and the real thing I want comments on. SD comes over and asks if the school will let her charge grandson's lunch next week. They are filling out the free lunch form and will at least qualify for the reduced price. But she doesn't have lunch money for the upcoming week of school. She couldn't even think far enough ahead to save back 7 dollars for him. Yet they were just sitting out on their porch smoking- aren't cigs like at least 5 bucks a pack for the cheapies?? Would you give her the money for his lunch? I will probably write a check to the school because I cannot stand the thought of him maybe having to go without lunch. And the last time I was at their house, there was next to nothing in the pantry- don't remember seeing any peanut butter or anything that could be sent for him. Guess I could send over some peanut butter from my house, but then how do I know that he gets it, and not them?? These are the types of people we are creating with all these entitlement programs. They are happy to sit on their butts all day, as long as they have that minimum payment coming in. They have health care coverage via medicaid and the va (daughter was in navy, and also gets a disability check from them). They have foodstamps that can be spent on their cokes and cookies, foregoing the beans and rice that I am stocked up on. They can also get clothing and utility assistance if necessary through the church we are members of. And it hacks me off. I have no problems with helping out someone down on their luck and actively trying to better themselves. Or the chronically ill people that try but just cannot hold down a full time job. Or the elderly who raised their families, giving everything they had to them, but just never had enough to put back to see them through. But I have a huge problem taking care of people who just sit there with their hands out, and don't try, and have never tried. So would you give her the lunch money for him?