How do you deal with ignorant parents?

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November_Ninth

Discussion Starter · Jan 3, 2017

I'm having a big dilemma here that I have been trying to deal with and could use some advice. I'm 20 (Yeah I get it the young inexperienced guy..yada yada yada) and I have a very careing but also very very ignorant parent who cannot go one day without thinking everyone else causes her problems, all men are pricks and abusive and that when the SHTF cops and the government is going to save everyone. She doesn't trust me for some reason even though my whole life I have proven everyone wrong about what they think of me, I'm not super smart but when next to family members and the people that live in my area I stand out and I'm much more politically educated than them by far. I'm the only one in my area that I know of that has a prepper mindset, I know how to handload, Bushcraft, clean water (In more than 2 ways), how to decontaminate myself and others from radiation and many other things so even though I'm 20 I'm not a newbe since prepping is kinda what I do for fun. I'm going to be okay when SHTF (After I find some prepping friends) but the only thing I don't know what to do about is family and parents. :dunno:

I live in New York (Yes the communist state Lol) so even though most of my family voted for Trump and has a bit of sense they still have that built in sense of safety from government and they don't belive anything could happen on the real life scale I talk about. Sure some understand if the power went off in the winter we would be cold and all of that but as for anything that lasts more than a month they just can't think of it. My mom is in her 50s and besides being stubborn as a mule I don't know if she could handle travel in a SHTF situation even if she had to. I'm a big guy and I know it would be hard for me too but I'm going to just be able to sleep stuff off most of the time, I don't think she could do that since she deals with pain allot (She says she does at least, idk if it's exaggerated or not).

It might seem like a simple choice but since it's my mom it's not.

And for the people who say just talk to her about it, that doesn't work. It just turns into yelling and nothing gets done. So not an option, most preppers I think would understand that some people won't change until it happens.

I know that was long but any advice would help, thanks.

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readytogo

· #41 · Jan 6, 2017

From ignorant parents to sharing to strangers is difficult but understanding, we fear the unknown and with reason all we have to do is watch the news and even those who follow the bible and the laws there off about sharing and giving and been humane will have to acknowledge that fear is a reasonable reason for not opening the door to just anybody but mom and pappy or brother and sister and no matter how ignorant they are, they are still blood ,I know I have them in my family ,so what to do? .If the donkey don`t want water ,the fear of God is not going to make him drink it ,period so like stated here before and not just on this topic ,buy extra goods whenever you can instead of gifts buy can goods ,water ,or whatever you think is necessary for your area and hope and pray that you never have to shared it.

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BillM

· #42 · Jan 7, 2017

OK Buddy

readytogo said:
From ignorant parents to sharing to strangers is difficult but understanding, we fear the unknown and with reason all we have to do is watch the news and even those who follow the bible and the laws there off about sharing and giving and been humane will have to acknowledge that fear is a reasonable reason for not opening the door to just anybody but mom and pappy or brother and sister and no matter how ignorant they are, they are still blood ,I know I have them in my family ,so what to do? .If the donkey don`t want water ,the fear of God is not going to make him drink it ,period so like stated here before and not just on this topic ,buy extra goods whenever you can instead of gifts buy can goods ,water ,or whatever you think is necessary for your area and hope and pray that you never have to shared it.

OK Buddy, I have read your history now.

You are a survivor ! You will always survive when others succumb.

You will eventually die, we all will but you will go down swinging.

that is the best we all can do.

One word of advise about your mother, she is not going to ever see the light until it is too late.

Don't keep attempting to gain her assistance or approval.

When you ask or tell someone what you are doing , you imply that you really want their opinion .

Just keep putting up the beans and rice !

You may get tired of eating beans and rice but you won't get tired of eating!

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cnsper

· #43 · Jan 8, 2017

What it boils down to is this... Those that wipe your ass rarely want your opinion.

JJWalker85

· #44 · Feb 23, 2017

WOW! that was highly irritating as I'm sure this post will be.. I typed out a whole loooong reply for you and damn it was good... the kind of good that made me think maybe I should quit my day job and become a life coach instead... and when I clicked post... the site had logged me out and said I was not registered and that it had saved a draft of my reply... well I logged back in and found no such draft anywhere

vract: ... if anyone can tell me where I might find this draft so I can post it I'd appreciate it. Otherwise i guess I'll have to come back to this thread at a later time and type it all out again... if I can remember it all.

tsrwivey

· #45 · Feb 23, 2017

You can usually use the back button on your browser to get your post back. Then just copy it all, resolve the problem, then paste your post.

bbqjoe

· #46 · Feb 23, 2017

The way I see things, keep doing what you're doing. If you're seeking your mother's validation, forget about it.

Just remember to tell her often: I love you, thank you.

jimLE

· #47 · Feb 24, 2017

well November_Ninth,i have family members thats the same way,about trust and respect.i've learned years ago,that it dont matter what i do to prove what ever to them,they dont believe it,or what ever..so i gave up trying to prove things to them.pluss i feel and believe that i dont have anything to prove to them,to begin with.so i stopped trying,and now.i simply sit back and let them prove themselves wrong in their own time.and all the while.i go with i feel and believe is right for me...so you might try that.i'm sure it'll be hard for ya to do and all.but yet,it might work....as for as prepping goes.might go with what (YOU) feel is right when it comes to you and your mom,first.then any others if you feel it necessary..my mom is in bad health..and to top it off,she takes diff meds.in which im sure things "will" get worse for when they run out..i have my doubt on her handling a long bug out trip to where ever..but yet,thats something i gotta think of all the same.on account i know that my brothers,sister and their kids won't be of any help.and to top it off.they live in areas where bugging out to their homes is less safe then where i live,when it comes to a shtf/teotwawki situation.so i'll be bugging out else where.one more thing i've thought of,in which it might sound callous and all.but yet.there's always that possibility i might have to leave her behind for my own safety..i hope it dont come to that thoe..as far as the preps you buy.keep at least most to yourself,if you feel it necessary..

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bigg777

· #48 · Feb 25, 2017

Buy and read a copy of "One Minute After" and then loan it to your parents.

readytogo

· #49 · Feb 25, 2017

The minute I started to talk I was told to listen, my father’s way of telling me to shut up and learn, I pass it to my children today and every day, I look at myself in the mirror every day before I pass judgment and like stated before ,we are all ignorant on something and everybody is different. I lost both my parents years ago and my friend I miss them everyday ,ignorant and all.

Meerkat

· #50 · Feb 26, 2017

readytogo said:
The minute I started to talk I was told to listen, my father's way of telling me to shut up and learn, I pass it to my children today and every day, I look at myself in the mirror every day before I pass judgment and like stated before ,we are all ignorant on something and everybody is different. I lost both my parents years ago and my friend I miss them everyday ,ignorant and all.

You been listening to Cat Stevens song ' Father And Son '? " From the moment I could talk I was ordered to listen ". I loved this man before he went nuts. I had both his 8 tracks.

I:39 into song he says what you said.

skills

· #51 · Feb 26, 2017

Definitely Don't fight with your mom it will cause harm to your relationships in the future you should talk to her and find a way you can both enjoy time spent together and also separated time to be Fun for both of you

headhunter

· #52 · Mar 1, 2017

I'm no typist. So if I wish to add something, I use the computer's writing program and write what I want," highlight" it and use "copy". At this point I reopen what I wanted to reply to (post a quick reply) and hit "paste". (I can't make the time limits either!)

chewie

· #53 · Mar 4, 2017

I've found the best thing to do is just to save your energy and focus on yourself The majority of the population for some reason simply doesn't care about prepping and will always find it to be a waste of time.

Instead of focusing on getting other people to join you you're better off to do what you can for now and continue to build your preps and learn general survival knowledge as you go.

Hopefully one day you'll be prepared enough to take care of both you and your mom.

tosiris

· #54 · 2 mo ago (Edited)

Hey there, I totally get what you're saying about dealing with ignorant parents. It can be frustrating when people don't understand the importance of prepping and being prepared for emergencies. But you're right. We can only control ourselves and our own actions. It's great that you're taking steps to prepare for your family's needs, and I agree that buying extra goods and learning survival skills are important steps to take. I recently discovered an article on supporting foster parents that emphasized the importance of being prepared for unexpected situations, not just for our own families but for those around us too. It's always good to have a community of people who are prepared and willing to help each other out in times of need.

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