I, along some I assume some others, through life experiences and observations adopted some views which might appear harsh and cynical, but are actually good guidelines to understanding and avoiding destructive behaviors and situations for me. I life and survivalism I strongly believe in individual responsibility, and that many problems experienced in life by others are easily avoided, and many threats to others are simple things to avoid if one simply thinks things through and responds appropriately. Some might disagree, but these work for me: 1. No good deed goes unpunished. I'm sure some have seen this time after time, you gou out of your way to help someone truly in need, often a person seeking help, and it blows back on you in some way. Perhaps a continuation and extension of that help is sought, or the person complains about what was received. There are times when you extend a hand and know that this is going to cause a problem down the road. Great example: When a church group opens up their doors to the homeless and church members find themselves harassed and the neighbors suffer thefts and damage! We still do things to help strangers, but expect problems. In very bad case scenario Survivalism, if we give out food to any strangers and word gets out, you're going to be swarmed, so no good deed goes unpunished. 2. She picked him. (or He picked her.) Half of the population is of one gender and half is of the other. There are many reasons people pick their spouses. That's their business, but when something goes wrong, the 'victim' expects sympathy and assistance. For example, everyone warned Sue about Ken being controlling, and there were warning signs for abuse, but she didn't listen to anyone and now look what happened. Or Rick knew he picked up Kim in a bar, had sex with her in the men's bathroom that first night, and he thought she'd be a faithful wife? An extreme example here, a woman brings home a man she meets in church that she knows was released from prison for a sex offense so he can have a place to live and so she can have someone. He rapes and kills her daughter, a popular high school cheerleader. The mother blames others, but She picked him. For preparedness: Be careful who you let into your group and be wary of their boyfriends or girlfriends. Some folks will bring horrifically bad choices into their lives and everyone else's and others will also pay a price for their poor life choices. Male or female shack up causes big problems, and your friend or relative complains about the piece of trash they hooked up with. Well, she picked him. Or He picked her. 3. Where's the surprise? I believe that many outcomes are highly predictable, as in the She picked him/He picked her situation, or when people do stupid things and the inevitable occurs. So when making a decision and you know that if you choose to go somewhere or with someone and something bad is like to happen and others will say Where's the Surprise? You don't do it! One of the harsh examples: Quite a while ago a lovely, sweet petite young woman goes to Africa and then out into the bush alone, with lots of expensive camera gear to pursue her dream of photographing the animals. She's raped, robbed, and killed by the game wardens who can't believe what landed in their lap and weren't going to let the opportunity pass by. Flash cash when hanging with trash, and you're likely to have problems. Where's the surprise? For survivalism, an example would be those people who live in the flood plains where it's been flooded year after year, after year...and they get flooded and act all shocked and perplexed for the cameras. Where's the surprise? 4. Not my people! This one is less direct. Every now and then something horrific happens, some guy gets trampled by human debris who don't care about him but want their bargains. A person is injured and others walk past her on the street and no one pays attention except for the guy who steals her purse. The media pundits what to claim that this is representative of humanity. BullSh*t! Not my people. That didn't happen around me or people like me. We help, we're not like that. I don't accept that all of humanity is like that and I want to be as far away from human debris like that. This isn't about race or demographics, it's about places where the people of any race and/or social economic group belong to a repugnant culture that is very different from that of decent people. Talking to a guy who was in Mississippi in an area trashed by Katrina, I asked him if they'd a lot of looting there. "Not my people." The population there was largely black with some whites, mostly poor, but unlike New Orleans, his community had few looters and a whole lot of pulling together, so this isn't about race, need or economics, it's about what the people are like. In my preps, I ensure that I'm not living in areas where people are like that and that means avoiding known places, here's one famous example: Murder of Kitty Genovese - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Even though there's a price to be paid for helping, how hard is it to pick up the phone. As we get older, and if you're aware, you see things and either react or don't react. These people who listened to the long duration attacks of not just one but of two women and didn't even get on the phone I can proudly say are 'not my people!' This is a short list, what it means to me is we bear an indvidual responsibility for what happens to us to a great extent. We've got to be careful about asking our motivations on helping folks and why they need that help because you might merely be facilitating more behavior that created the problem. You need to choose spouses and significant others carefully. You should think about things and if it's very possible that something might go wrong, and it's not a surprise if it does, don't do it! And don't live around human debris.